Are you married, dating, single or ready to mingle? This book is exactly what you need. The 5 love languages by Gary Chapman will open a new dimension into the realms of love. Have you been expressing love to your spouse and it seems like it goes unnoticed? Have you been trying to bring that spark back into the relationship but every attempt seems to fail? Have you not felt loved in a while by your significant other?
According to Gary Chapman, the reason for this might be that your love tank is empty or running very low and that of your partner too. Have you not felt like your partner is expressing love ever since you said: “I do”? The reason might be that you simply speak different love languages.
As the title already gives away Gary Chapman identifies that there are 5 love languages. These are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. People tend to have a primary love language and often also a secondary one.
However, as you get into a relationship it can be that you and your partner speak two different love languages meaning that yours might be words of affirmation and his acts of service. Therefore, the way that you feel loved is by him affirming you through his words. Nevertheless, since his love language is acts of service he might be expressing his love to you through acts of service, for example doing the laundry, vacuuming the house or doing dishes.
So, even though he is expressing love by doing these things for you since this is not your primary love language these actions don’t necessarily express love to you. You might therefore end up not feeling loved and your partner might end up frustrated because he is expressing love the way knows it. In the language that he speaks.
This book provides a deep dive into each of the 5 love languages with examples and ways of application. It also explains what happens to marriages when the love tank has been empty for a while, however also provides solutions to fill it up again.
I can recommend this book to every married couple, couple or even people that have a desire to get married. Honestly, I think this is a great book for every kind of relationship. This particular book is focused on marriage but the principles and an understanding of them provide a great basis for every relationship, in my opinion. If you would like to learn more about the 5 love languages apart from the covenant of marriage then Gary Chapman has heard your cries. He has also published editions focusing on single people, children, teenagers, men and even people in the military. So, I believe that everyone can find the perfect fitting version for themselves.
Coming back to this, I can say that it is a great read it. It is easy to understand, includes relatable examples and provides an amazing way of reflection while providing an insight into all 5 languages. Even though I am not married yet, this has helped me to understand people better and also myself by understanding my love language. I believe knowing this before entering a relationship can be very helpful as it helps to find different ways to give and receive love. I think understanding the 5 languages will enable you to acknowledge the efforts of your partner, learning their love language while being able to communicate the ways you receive love best.
To be honest it is not just about receiving love but also about giving it. How beautiful would it be if you can speak your partner’s love language and see their love tank overflowing and them flourishing because of it? At the end of the day, it is more blessed to give than to receive.
I enjoyed reading this book very much and believe that I will reread it before I get married and even a couple of times during marriage. It is a great help and quite a quick read too including a lot of wisdom. Give it a read and feel free to let me know what you think about it.
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